Asperger Subtype: "The Logic Boy"
You will need to explain why something needs to be done or why it can't be done before you will get compliance. For the Logic Boy, understanding precedes cooperation. If your explanations provide him with information he didn't have, might have overlooked, or didn't understand, you will have helped him clarify the way the world works and how a desired action is beneficial to him. As these children become older, you will need to do much more explaining because rules by themselves will have less impact. As you explain things to these children, always match your explanation to their cognitive and emotional level. Don't overestimate how much they know because they have a large vocabulary. Always make sure they understand you as you move step by step. As you explain something from a new angle you will help them see it differently. For those who overanalyze, you will have to help them reduce the amount of analysis by helping them see how it is unproductive.Let's look at an example:
Matt was an eight-year-old who always came home from school hungry. Each day he walked in the front door and began to argue with his mother about dinner. He wanted it right away and couldn't wait for her to finish it. These battles led to knock-down, drag-out fights, culminating in Mom pinning Matt to the floor. After going through this struggle on a daily basis, Mom sought help. As always, we discussed the particulars, gathered information, listened to all sides of the problem, and then began our discussion. It went something like this:
From Parenting Your Asperger Child by Alan Sohn, Ed.D., and Cathy Grayson, M.A. Copyright © 2005. Used by arrangement with Penguin Group (USA) Inc.
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