My sister had a birthday party for my seven-year-old niece. My other niece, who was just eight months old, was as happy as could be sitting in the high chair at the table with all the other little girls at the party. The six boys, my two included, sat at another table about five feet away.
The boys' table was loud and filled with battling action figures. The girls' table was filled with quiet excitement while the cake was being prepared.
When my sister was ready to get the party rolling, she said, "Okay, are you guys ready to sing 'Happy Birthday'?" And when the girls screamed, "Yes!" all at the same time, the baby freaked out and screamed uncontrollably until she finally fell asleep.
The moral of this story is that babies can adjust to a constant stream of noise, but abrupt loud noises can put them over the top.
Do you know the expression "you look tired"? Babies look tired when they are tired.
Sometimes when baby is tired, his eyelids turn reddish purple or he gets a shadow under the eyes.
People have said for years that babies beg for boundaries, and this applies to everything from eating to playing to sleeping. Babies literally beg. They scream and cry.
For restful sleeping, keep baby comfortable and warm. Consider dressing baby in a Onesie. When it's warm outside, this can be very comfortable.
Bathing an infant before bed can calm him. Feed him after each bath and notice if he actually sleeps longer.
Try not to run to the rescue every time your baby becomes frustrated or cries. Let him first try to work out his problems for himself. Your restraint, difficult as it may be, is especially important when you are helping your baby learn to sleep through the night.
Some babies rest better with a night-light in their room, and others do not. If your baby isn't sleeping well, try changing the lighting in the room. For example, use a nearby bathroom or hallway light, or nothing at all. Some babies like the dark because they were used to it in the womb.
Try not to turn on a bright light during night feedings. It affects your baby the same way it would affect you. How would you like it if someone turned on the light and brought you breakfast in bed at 3:00 A.M.? All I know is that it would really irk me—unless I had to be at work at 4:00 A.M.
To help baby sleep from 7 P.M. to 7 A.M. (or 8 P.M. to 8 A.M.), try putting him down for a morning nap from about 9 to 11 A.M. and an afternoon nap from about 1 to 3 P.M. Dozing is always okay—and welcomed—but sleeping deeply and for a long time after 3 P.M. can start to interfere with the baby's nighttime schedule.
Is your baby a light sleeper? You will need to teach him that just because he wakes up raring to go whenever someone goes by doesn't mean that person necessarily intends to pick him up and take him out for a walk. Let baby learn to play alone, and be sure to have something safe in the crib for him to look at or reach for, such as an activity center.
If your baby will not take a nap, make him spend at least an hour and a half each day in a quiet room in a crib or play yard. Babies and their parents need rest and downtime to be pleasant.
Despite the back-and-forth you might read on this issue, I do believe that some babies need to be fed more before bedtime in order to sleep better and make it through the night. Some say it doesn't matter; others say it's vital. As a heads-up, that just goes with parenting. There are always at least two sides to everything. Just watch your baby and notice what works best for him.
Babies get fully recharged when they see mom or dad, so if they are just about to fall asleep, don't peek in on them and catch their eye. I've crawled on more carpets as a mother than my babies have!
Make a large "Do Not Disturb" sign for your front door and put it over the doorbell ringer. And don't forget to use it whenever you need to sleep, too! I have another one that reads, "You wake him, you take him," and for some reason, that one seems to be even more effective.
As your baby grows through the first year, leave a pair of slip-on platform shoes or a small stepping stool under the crib. You can change your baby's diaper in the middle of the night without taking her out of the crib or waking her up by dropping down the bedside rail. It will also save your back!
If it ain't broke, don't fix it. That means if your baby is sleeping well, eating well, and acting happy, don't change a single thing.
Once your baby establishes a morning wake-up schedule, he will probably be more reliable than your alarm clock. It's amazing!
During times of daylight savings, notice how one short hour of gain or loss can affect your baby and his sleep pattern—if only for a short period. Once you see this, live your life remembering how much one hour can do.
Babies wear themselves out mentally when they hear background noises, such as people talking or the radio. That means that even if your baby is sleeping in the middle of the family room, he is still wearing himself out. So put your baby down for his afternoon naps in a noisier area and then put him in his crib at night. He'll probably sleep deeper through the night in his quiet place. An added bonus: he'll also begin to sleep through anything.
If you throw a party or some other event, remember the baby is not used to so much company. She may become overstimulated from all the different people who want to hold her. At some point, take her into a quiet room and give her some space for twenty minutes. This works great and will revitalize her for another round!
Depending on your baby, the following could happen at any time now. Once your baby learns how to stand up in the crib, he may start crying—more out of fear that he doesn't know how to let go and sit back down than because he wants you to take him out. In other words, he's stuck. Rather than pick him up (because this will just form a new bad habit), bend his knees, show him how to sit back down, pat his back, and say, "I love you," and leave the room immediately.
Ways to keep a baby awake:
Change his position (for example, move from lying down to sitting up).
Change his toy or activity.
Change his situation (for example, move to another room).
Take a walk or run errands.
Sing a song or put on some slightly upbeat music.
Feed him something light to recharge him.
Not sure why baby is crying? Well, keep in mind that babies don't like overstimulation, changes in their routines, loud and abrupt noises, and/or tense parents. Consider whether or not any of these factors are contributing to the situation.
If your baby is in a really bad mood, pretend he is a stressed-out grown-up caught in a rush-hour traffic jam. People can be really nasty in that kind of situation until you smile at them. But usually, once you do, they smile back—and even wave!
