Behavior Makeover: Bullied
How will you use the four steps and the Behavior Makeover Plan to help your kid achieve long-term change? On the following lines, write exactly what you agree to do within the next twenty-four hours to begin your kid's behavior makeover.
All behavior makeovers take hard work, constant practice, and parental reinforcement. Each step your kid takes toward change may be a small one, so be sure to acknowledge and congratulate every one of them along the way. It takes a minimum of twenty-one days to see real results, so don't give up too soon. Remember that if one strategy doesn't work, another will. Write your child's weekly progress on the lines below. Keep track of daily progress in your Makeover Journal.
Coping with Peer Pressure, by Leslie Kaplan (New York: Rosen, 1987). Ideas for helping kids learn to stand up for themselves.
Your Child: Bullying, by Jenny Alexander (Boston: Element, 1998). A practical guide written by the mother of a bully victim that discusses whole family initiatives for dealing with bullying.
Your Child Bully or Victim: Understanding and Ending School Yard Tyranny, by Peter Sheras and Sherill Tippins (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2002). Strategies for both victims and bullies.
Liking Myself, by Pat Palmer (San Luis Obispo, Calif.: Impact Publishers, 1977). A great source of ideas for helping kids ages 5 to 9 learn assertiveness skills.
Stick Up for Yourself! Every Kid's Guide to Personal Power and Positive Self-Esteem, by Gershen Kaufman and Lev Raphael (Minneapolis, Minn.: Free Spirit Publishing, 1990). A wonderful compilation of strategies to boost kids' self-esteem and decision making. Ages 9 to 12.
The Mouse, the Monster and Me! by Pat Palmer (San Luis Obispo, Calif.: Impact Publishers, 1977). Assertiveness concepts for 8 to 12 year olds.
Why Is Everybody Always Picking on Me: A Guide to Understanding Bullies for Young People, by Terrence Webster-Doyle (New York: Weatherhill, 2000). Provides bully-proofing ideas. Ages 9 to 12.
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