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Attitude Makeover: Greedy

What's Wrong With Your Current Response?
How do you typically respond to your child's greedy demands? Think back to the last time your kid had a greedy streak. What was the issue about? Now focus on your behavior. How did you respond? Most important, did you give in to your kid's desires and let him have his way? Did you talk to him about his attitude or ignore it? Did you say, "Go ask your rich Uncle Nat?" "I'll buy you the candy if you sit in the cart and don't say one more word." "Okay, you can have that new outfit if you just start doing your homework." Did you set a consequence or warn him what would happen if he continued his greediness?

What kinds of responses have you discovered do not work in squelching your kid's greediness? Is there one thing you have learned that is not effective in dealing with this attitude? List your worst response below:

I will not

Facing Your Own Bad Attitudes
Your kid was not born greedy, so where is she learning this behavior? Friends? You? Relatives? You're the best role model for helping your child cope with our complicated material world, so what kind of example are you setting? For instance, is he seeing you behave with restraint and wisdom? Or might he be witnessing someone who wants what she sees and buys on the whim? Seriously reflect about whether your behavior is teaching your kid to be greedier or more charitable. Here are a few questions to help you consider the kind of example you are intentionally or quite unintentionally sending your kid. Check ones that may apply to you:

Do I model fiscal prudence?

Do I buy things impulsively and then run out of money needed for more basic necessities?

Do I bribe the kids to get them to comply with normal school or household rules and responsibilities?

Do I find myself talking more about things than relationships?

Do I compare what I own to what others have? Am I competitive in always having something better than my best friend or the guy next door?

Do I go way overboard with gifts for the kids on holidays and birthdays and celebrations?

Do I buy the kids fancy stuff instead of spending time with them?

Do I always want my kid to have the newest fashion or electronic tools?

Do I cave in to my kids' consumer whims because I think it will make them more popular?

Do I go in a store and feel the need to buy something even if I know I don't need it?

Do I send the kids to expensive camps or after-school programs just because their friends are going?

Would my kid say, "It's not what you own but what you are" is true about me?

My kids frequently see me doing charitable acts toward others and would agree that charity is a value I deem important.

What is the first step you need to take in yourself to be a better example to your kids for dealing with their greedy behavior? Write down changes you need to make.

I will

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From Don't Give Me That Attitude by Michele Borba, Ed.D. Copyright © 2004 by Michele Borba. All rights reserved. Used by arrangement with John Wiley & Sons, Inc.

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