Parent Checklist: Giving Positive Feedback
How Are You Doing?
Here are a few questions to help you assess how well you're doing in making your kid feel cherished, especially when he's misbehaving. Check any potential problem areas:
_______ Does my kid overhear me talk about her to others in positive, loving terms and not about her misbehaviors?
_______ Do I avoid comparing her to siblings or peers?
_______ Do I avoid berating her in front of others?
_______ Do I always discipline my child privately and with dignity?
_______ Do I have reasonable expectations, based on the age, personality, and development of my child?
_______ Do I stop and consider my child's point of view and listen openly to his opinion?
_______ Do I remember to compliment and encourage my kid when he is good?
_______ Do I stay calm whenever I discipline my child, never raising my voice, yelling, or hitting?
_______ Do I schedule one-on-one special time to enjoy being with my kid and give my full presence?
_______ Do I avoid taking sides when there's a conflict between my kids, or would my child say I show favoritism?
_______ Do I lash out at my kid because I've had a tough day?
_______ Do I accept my kid's natural temperament, and have I made peace with his personality?
_______ Do I always insist on having my way because "I'm the parent"?
_______ Do I try to eliminate a behavior in my kid because I see it as a problem in myself?
_______ Do I end each discipline episode by letting him know I love him and forgive him?
_______ Do I acknowledge to my kid whenever I was unfair or acted inappropriately?
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