Single Mothering: Life After Divorce
Creating a New Identity
Whether you stay in the house or apartment of your marriage, or end up moving to a new location, you should make every effort to make your home your own. It is very good for your morale to redecorate to suit your tastes. When I divorced my first husband I got an apartment for my daughter and me. Because I had just ended my marriage to a real stick-in-the-mud, I went wild with decorating. I was reacting to the staid practicality of the home we had lived in together, all done up in earth tones. Although I had a shoestring budget I decorated my new place with so many flowers and so much lace it could have passed for a Victorian bordello.
You, too, can revel in creating your new, post-divorce identity. If you like purple with pink polka dots you can decorate in it. Express yourself in any way you want.
Celebrating Your Freedom
By the time a marriage fails, chances are it had begun to feel oppressive. In my case, I treated my new single status as the equivalent of having been paroled. I had a newfound appreciation for the simple things in life, like having my personal autonomy back. And I enjoyed the luxurious sense of freedom that comes when you realize that you can p
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Excerpted from The Complete Idiot's Guide to Motherhood © 1999 by Deborah Levine Herman. All rights reserved including the right of reproduction in whole or in part in any form. Used by arrangement with Alpha Books, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc.
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