Cousin Abuses Her Daughter
Question: My 21-year-old cousin has a five-year-old girl, whom I have cared for often. My cousin is unkind to her daughter, including being verbally and physically abusive. I'm only 18 myself, but I want to take custody of the girl because she deserves every opportunity in life. Can you help?
Answer: Your love for the child and your interest in her welfare is admirable. It may be too difficult for you to successfully gain custody (given your age), but if abuse is going on, you can make an anonymous report to the child-protection agency in your area. They will investigate the matter and, hopefully, be able to improve the situation.
You are a gift in this girl's life and, even without having custody, your role here is very important and brings her great benefits. Custody is not the only way you can contribute your love.
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Gavin de Becker is widely regarded as the leading U.S. expert on the prediction and management of violence. His work has earned him three Presidential appointments and a position on a congressional committee. He is currently co-chair of the Domestic Violence Council Advisory Board, and a Senior Fellow at the UCLA School of Public Policy.
