Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

More and more grandparents are parenting again, and organizing resources to help themselves cope.

FamilyEducation Editorial Staff

Updated: December 1, 2022

Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

Easing the Burden of "Second Parenthood"

More Americans than ever are assuming the responsibility of caring for their children's children.

What's causing the increase? According to Martha Crowther, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Alabama, some reasons are:

Substance abuse by the parent(s)

Teen pregnancy

Child abuse, neglect, and abandonment

Imprisonment of the parent(s)

Parent(s) disabled by HIV/AIDS

Death of a parent

Crowther, a facilitator of Grandparents United, a support group for grandparents raising grandchildren, helps grandparents deal with the following unexpected results of this new family dynamic:

A change in health: In their attempts to care for grandchildren, grandparents may begin neglecting their own health care. For example, they may forget to take their medications.

Stress: Grandparents find their world turned upside-down. They believed they had reached a point in their lives when child-rearing was done or almost done now, it's starting over again. Stress also may come from the fear of a parent returning and upsetting the stability of the household. Children who come to their grandparents from difficult circumstances often bring with them a lot of problems, which the grandparents are faced with resolving. Also, older grandparents may have trouble keeping up with younger children.

Finances: Grandparents living on fixed incomes even those in middle-income brackets find the financial burden difficult. For instance, middle-income grandparents often don't qualify for anysocial services, so they frequently have to pay out-of-pocket for their grandchildren's health care.

Grandparent Resources

You or someone you know can find support in your community and through programs that help grandparentsdeal with the frustrations of their new role while educating them to be better caregivers. Organizations,websites, and materials are here to help:

Brookdale Foundation Group
126 East 56th St.
New York, NY 10022-3668
(212) 308-7355
Request a free copy of the foundation's book, Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: A Guide to Finding Help and Hope, by Marianne Takas. Send a check for $4 (to cover shipping and handling) to the Brookdale Foundation at the above address.

The Foundation for Grandparenting
198 Farnham Road
Ojai, CA 93023
Committed to promoting the importance of grandparenthood.

Generations United
122 C St., N.W., Ste. 820
Washington, DC 20001
(202) 638-1263
Fosters intergenerational collaboration on public policy and programs to improve the lives of children, youth, and the elderly.

Grandparent Information Center
AARP
601 E St. N.W.
Washington, DC 20049
(202) 434-2296
Serves those raising grandchildren who are concerned about their visitation rights, step-grandparents, and traditional grandparents. It publishes a free newsletter, Parenting Grandchildren, as well as website tip sheets on starting a support group for grandparents raising grandchildren.

GrandsPlace
154 Cottage Road
Enfield, CT 06082
(860) 763-5789
In partnership with National PTA.
Adapted from "When Grandchildren Live at Grandma and Grandpa's House" inNational PTA's OurChildren magazine.