Mother/Daughter 101: Smart Tips for Raising Girls
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Avoid Becoming Her "Fixer"
As a mom, you manage a lot in your own life and your family's, so it's easy to get confused in your "Mama Bear" role and "fix" any problems or mistakes that arise. It's great that you want to protect your child, but try not to micromanage your daughter's life. If she gets a bad grade or has a fight with a friend, talk with her about it first — don't pick up the phone to demand that her teacher change the grade or to insist that her former best friend come over to play. Pay attention to serious patterns — things like her grades slipping beyond a bad quiz or two, her group of friends changing overnight, or sad moods after a relationship ends — and talk with her about what's going on, what outcome she hopes for, and how you can support her. But remember that her relationships and grades ultimately belong to her, and she will learn a lot from owning them and tending to them herself.