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Reframe the Problem

One reason we get so stressed when something goes wrong is that we focus only on what has gone wrong. We wish it hadn't happened and mumble about our rotten luck. Instead, try reframing a problem situation to see if there is any possible good in it.

  • Try looking at a current problem from a glass-half-full point of view. For example, if the problem is a cancelled appointment, you might have more time to prepare or to meet a friend for dinner. If the problem is you lost your temper, did you learn how NOT to negotiate? If you got caught in traffic, might a benefit be that you find time to meditate?
Okay, most of us would prefer that problems wouldn't show up at all, but when they do, see if there isn't a silver lining in there someplace. It cushions the blow if you can identify some unexpected gain from unexpected pain.
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A series of "quick-lifts" excerpted from Recharge in Minutes, ©2003, by Suzanne Zoglio, Ph.D.

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