I do believe that your daughter will grow out of the extreme reactions she now exhibits when in a medical setting, but she will do so on a timetable that cannot be rigidly imposed on her. I think she is old enough to benefit from working with a talented child therapist who has worked with kids similarly traumatized. Often therapists work with the child's medical caretakers as part of the therapy. My recommendation would be to see what professional help you could bring her.
Afraid of the Doctor
Carleton Kendrick has been in private practice as a family therapist and has worked as a consultant for more than 20 years. He has conducted parenting seminars on topics ranging from how to discipline toddlers to how to stay connected with teenagers. Kendrick has appeared as an expert on national broadcast media such as CBS, Fox Television Network, Cable News Network, CNBC, PBS, and National Public Radio. In addition, he's been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Boston Globe, USA Today, Reader's Digest, BusinessWeek, Good Housekeeping, Woman's Day, and many other publications.
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