Think Yourself Thin

The Naysayers

You've met naysayers before. These people tell you it will never work, that they have tried that method before and it didn't work for them, so why should it work for you?

Beware the naysayers who notice that you are eating differently and try to break your resolve. Others will lecture you on how weight loss really works and will let you know that you are doing it all wrong. Some actually push food on you and insist you eat what they want you to eat.

Maria was obviously overweight and was enjoying an ice cream cone while sitting outside on a bench at a popular neighborhood shopping area. A strange woman approached her, sat down next to her, and said, “Are you sure you should be eating that ice cream cone?” Then she proceeded to tell Maria that she had lost all sorts of weight recently and told her how she did it. Maria just got up and walked away. The nerve of some people. We would like to think that this strange woman had good intentions—but she sure didn't have good boundaries.

How do you handle these people, whether they are doing it for your own best good or not? First and foremost, don't tell just anyone you're on a weight-loss program. Even if people ask, you don't need to tell them everything. If they notice you have lost weight and want to know how, refer them to this book. It's best to avoid a long story with detailed descriptions. Here are some suggestions for handling these pushy people:


Build yourself a base of good support. First create the support within yourself and then find support in books, friends, and the Internet. Use this support when anyone challenges your goals and your weight-loss program.

  • The food pusher. Say one of these two things: “Oh, no thanks, not right now, it looks delicious, but I'm saving room for dinner.” Or say, “I'm just not hungry right now. It looks delicious, perhaps later.”

  • The family member food pusher who wants you to eat more dessert or go back for seconds. Put your hand across your tummy and say, “Thanks, your food was wonderful, but I just can't fit in another bite.”

  • The “Are you sure you should be eating that?” person. Answer “Absolutely!” and walk away.

  • The know-it-all-about-dieting person. Say thanks but no thanks, especially if they aren't at their ideal size. It is best to learn from someone who has already mastered weight, not someone who is still trying to figure it out.

  • The fat friend. This one is tough because it is possible you could lose some fat friends along the way if you master your weight. To stay friends, find other mutual interests.

  • Any potential naysayer. The less you say, the less they can hurt you.

If you do happen to get in the path of a naysayer, as soon as you escape, be sure to repeat your inner mantra—see the following section—to yourself until any inner turmoil goes away and you get recentered as a thin person.

The Inner Mantra

Lean Lingo

An affirmation is a carefully written positive statement declaring that you already have what you want. It usually starts with the words “I am” and states in present tense your desire as if you already have it.

Directing your thoughts to being thin is really hard. After all, you have years of scripts and self-talk that do anything but affirm your thin self. That's why we recommend you use the ideal size affirmation. This is the only one you need to use.

It goes like this, “I, (insert first name), am now a healthy and thin person. I wear a size (insert desired size), and I do what healthy and thin people do.”

This statement affirms exactly what you want. If the word “thin” for you doesn't mean what it means to us, change it so that you are comfortable. Most often a person will change it to “lean.” But we urge you not to change anything else. For example, don't change it to say, “I deserve to be thin.” That is a lame and actually ineffective affirmation. Our response would be, “So what if you deserve to be thin? Deserving and being are two different things.”

The secret of this affirmation is that it declares you are already there. Yes, you will be shaking things up in your mind. This is good. You will be creating cognitive dissonance in your mind. Since this makes you uncomfortable, your insides will work hard to bring about compliance with your affirmation. Getting to your ideal size will require less and less thought and effort. In fact, you will be amazed at how easy it is to eat 0-5 after a couple months of using the affirmation.

To use the affirmation, say it aloud at least three times in a row three times a day. Yes, you can say it in private. That's a great start. It works even more quickly if you write it. That's right, write the affirmation 10 times every day. Purchase a spiral notebook or a journal and write the affirmation 10 times every day. Do it with meaning and care. At first, parts of your psyche will rebel. Let them. The writing will, over time, convince them that you are indeed a healthy and thin person.

If a situation comes up that challenges you, such as the desire to stress eat or if your favorite donuts show up at work and you aren't at 0, say your affirmation to yourself. Save the donut until you are once again at a 0.

Lucy continued to write her weight-loss affirmation for six months after she had reached her ideal size. She has stayed at her ideal size for more than 20 years. The time spent was a terrific investment.

Affirmations are one of the strongest and most effective tools for achieving your ideal size. We know plenty of people for whom this has worked. We also know people who have met their life's soul mate, improved their vision, and found terrific jobs by using the power of affirmations.

In a sense, you already affirm every day all day long. You have been affirming that you have an overweight body for years. Now change the “CD” and get what you really want.

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Excerpted from The Complete Idiot's Guide to Healthy Weight Loss © 2005 by Lucy Beale and Sandy G. Couvillon. All rights reserved including the right of reproduction in whole or in part in any form. Used by arrangement with Alpha Books, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc.

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