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Maintaining Your Ideal Size

Maintaining your weight loss involves many, many aspects of your life. Certainly what and how you eat make a big difference in staying at your ideal size, but how you think and how you live are also important.

You want to be truly finished with being overweight. Permanently. Forever. You don't want any part of your former overweight self hanging around as you live the rest of your life. You want the “new you” to be “the real you” for the rest of your life.

Sometimes formerly overweight individuals constantly fret about food and dieting. They can't seem to let go of the issue. We don't want that to happen with you. When your weight loss is complete, when you reach your ideal size, it's time (with a capital T) for you to bid a fond farewell to your fat self and get on with other, more interesting aspects of life.

The Good-Bye, Fat Self Letter


Try writing a good-bye, fat self letter even before you have reached your ideal size. You might be surprised at how hard it is to really say good-bye, but doing so early on can help you align your mindset with your goals.


What do you do if you're stuck at a certain size and your weight just won't budge? Write a good-bye letter to that size. In the letter, ask to be given all the lessons from your current size so that you can move on to the next size. We've seen people lose a size within days of writing this letter.

Write a good-bye letter to your fat self. To sign and seal the deal, write a good old-fashioned “Dear John” letter. Declare to your fat self that the relationship is over—finis!—and that you're starting a new life with your thin self.

Are you ready? Then let's do it. Set aside 15 minutes to a half-hour and, using pen and paper, write your letter. Tell your fat self that you appreciate all it has done for you. Thank it for all of the lessons it presented to you. Acknowledge all the lessons learned along the way.

Tell your fat self that you won't be needing it any longer for protection and padding, that you have found other ways to meet those needs. Then say a fond good-bye and let your fat self go.

Read the letter aloud and, if you want, create a ceremony (such as lighting a candle) to say your formal good-byes. Then release your fat self forever and welcome in your new ideal size.

Your good-bye letter to your fat self should be as personal as possible, but we're including a brief sample to help you get started:

Dear Fat Self,

You're going to find this hard to believe, but it's finally time for us to part ways. Forever. We've been together for __ years, through good times and bad, through thick and, well, not exactly thin. But the relationship is over. I don't plan to be overweight ever again. You taught me a lot about life and about myself. Now I know how to eat and live without you.

You brought me lots of pain, too. Because of you, I've been unhappy. I've been through more clothes sizes than I care to think about. You've made shopping unpleasant. You've made food seem like some evil that I couldn't resist. You've made me cry. You've even made my health worse. I'm tired of it. It's over. I will not—repeat, NOT—be a fat person ever again. I'm much happier at my ideal size. I look better, feel better, and know I'm healthier. I plan to ignore that I ever knew you. So, adios. Sayonara. Auf wiedersehen. Good-bye!

Your good-bye letter can cover very specific issues to which you want to say good-bye. You can itemize the pains you've personally experienced and the past frustrations you've had trying to lose weight. To further solidify letting go of your previous fat self, we recommend that you use the exercise in the next section.

Next: Move beyond >>

Excerpted from The Complete Idiot's Guide to Healthy Weight Loss © 2005 by Lucy Beale and Sandy G. Couvillon. All rights reserved including the right of reproduction in whole or in part in any form. Used by arrangement with Alpha Books, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc.

To order this book visit the Idiot's Guide web site or call 1-800-253-6476.


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