Working Mothers: Organizing Your Life
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Working couples who want to make their marriages work too, should make time for one another aside from all the other details of parenthood. Focus on placing your special time together high on your priority list. Keeping the spark alive will take effort at times, but you know that the rewards will be worth it. Keep the following points in mind:
- Reflect on what you're learning togetherTo nurture your relationship and keep communication open, discuss from time to time the positive things you're learning as parents. It'll boost your self-esteem and sense of satisfaction too. At the end of a working day, don't greet each other with negative news. Wait until a quiet time when everyone is relaxed.
- Find time for special momentsEliminate unproductive or repetitive activities in order to make time for yourselves. Let the clean laundry go unfolded occasionally. Pour two glasses of wine and turn the lights down low. Or ask a friend, coworker, or family member to baby sit for a couple hours so you can have a romantic getaway.
- Set aside a problem resolution timeHave specific blocks of time when you discuss child-related issues with your partner. Keep it separate from your fun time together as a couple.
- Cultivate common interestsDon't lose sight of the fact that parenthood is just one aspect of your marriage and not the whole expression. Find interests, friends, and activities you can share as a couple at least once a week. Try to get away one weekend every few months.
- Learn to say noThe time you save by eliminating needless tasks could be used for strengthening your marriage bonds.
- Be thoughtfulSend notes to each other expressing your feelings. Considerate, unexpected gifts do wonders for a relationship. Call during your lunch hour to say hello.
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© 2005 by Marla Schram Schwartz. Excerpted from The Working Woman's Baby Planner with permission of its publisher, Sourcebooks, Inc.
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